Pretty daunting beginning your search for a wife from the former Soviet Union. Let me offer you a few suggestions and a little insight into who you should be looking for and what these women are looking for from you.
Many me begin writing letters to women whose listings are on web sites. Many do not respond and so some men give up too easily. You do not have to be the most handsome guy around. I was to find that one of the problems was that a lot of those listings are out-of-date or fake. You may have realized that the younger guys might find wives that way, but not those of us over fifty.
There must be a better way.
Submit your Bio to a reputable website for Russia and Ukraine. During the next few months you will be shocked by the number responses. Advertise for women age 38-45 but don't be surprised
if you get responses from much younger ladies.. They are all intelligent, interesting, and gorgeous. They are everything any red-blooded American man would want in a wife. So how do you find the right person?
First, know exactly what you want in a wife. And guys, be realistic about what you are searching for and be honest about yourself. You have to be suspicious about a much-too-young woman being interested in you but who could resist writing to that 30 something year-old living model with a drop dead gorgeous smile. Think about where she lives ,city or country and where you live and want, will she be happy for example living in a big city if she has spent her life in he country.
You absolutely must offer them something unique and interesting. Telling them you're from the USA and that you have a house, an automatic dishwasher, and a car won't do it. They won't be impressed. In fact, they'll be insulted. Russian women can't be bought , they are not for sale to the person with the most stuff. And besides, we all have that same stuff .They won't be impressed with your possessions, so don't mention them until you get to know the woman.
Remember that your competition is from around the world, me and other guys in the USA, Canada, Germany, England, Australia, Sweden, Italy, South Africa, and just about every other country you can name because of the internet. They have a lot to offer too, so don't think that just because you're from the good-old USA that you have an advantage. You don't. They want to marry a person, not a country. They want to marry a good, decent, kind and caring man with whom they can feel safe, secure and loved. They want a happy family life. They want a man who is financially secure. They want candle lit dinners and home coziness. If you can't convince them that you can provide those things, then, my friend, you have lost already. And for Heaven's sake, never mention sex in any of your letters unless they bring it up first. Don't be a fool. If you want to scare them off, that's the sure way to do it.
I highly recommend this great book called How To Find & Marry A Girl Like Me
Don't rush your relationship. Some web sites tell you that if you don't visit the woman in her home country within two to three months, she'll look elsewhere. That's Rubbish. Sometimes it takes six months to a year before she's ready to take the major step of inviting you to visit her.
That beautiful Russian woman that you think you love is as nervous about this thing as you are, probably more so, and she wants to be absolutely sure of what she's getting into because once she takes the step of inviting you to visit, there will be no turning back. Generally, a visit leads to marriage and she knows it. She'll take her time in making that fateful decision. You're asking her to leave behind the only life she has ever known. You're asking her to leave her friends and family. You're asking her to move to an alien culture where she won't even know the language.
That's a big ask .Most Russian women are also very well educated
You don't have to be the world's best writer to get her attention. Just be honest and open in your letters .Some sites will tell you to avoid women who are looking for a generous or well-to-do man. Don't believe that. Those terms have totally different meanings to them than they do to you. Watch out for the word ich, though. If you're not rich, forget about her.
Use words and phrases in your letters that she can easily understand. Remember, she's probably using a translator who might not be much more fluent in English than she is, so don't use colloquialisms or modern jargon.. Her dictionary will tell her that buffalo is a noun, not a verb. I especially like the word careful when they describe the kind of man they want. They mean, of course, caring, but the word careful can have a totally different meaning to some Americans. And it won't hurt to learn some Russian and throw in a few phrases that have meaning to you and her, but make sure you spell the words correctly and mean what you say because she'll believe everything you tell her in Russian. To learn the terms get a copy of this book on Russia Terms .at http://www.datingbeautys.com
Above all else, fellows, be totally honest with her. And if she not the one tell her. However, if she's the woman you've been searching for all your life, tell her so. The only thing she has to compare you with, other than the letters from those others guys (who are probably lying and she'll find that out soon enough), are the men who live in her hometown. Now don't get me wrong. I like the people in the former Soviet Union. They are good people, but Russia is a rough place. The culture is unlike any you have ever known. Russian men can be your best friends, but the culture doesn't permit them to treat women like you and I have been taught. To have a husband who doesn't drink, doesn't beat his wife, is faithful, and who works at a steady job is a rarity. When they divorce, the husband takes off for another country and never helps her, never helps support his children, and has little if any contact with them. I can't count the number of men from the former Soviet Union I've met who say that they left their wife and kids behind. They're proud about being scumbags and they don't care what happens to the family they left back in Moscow. The good ones in her hometown are already married and she doesn't have much of a selection from which to choose. That's why she's looking overseas.
She doesn't necessarily want to leave her homeland, but she often has no choice if she wants to to be happy. To have a man tell her she's beautiful (and she probably is, but no man at home has told her that since she was eighteen), and to offer her a good life with a secure future, sharing, respect, love and understanding is a dream-come-true for her. No man ever put her on a pedestal before. She's not used to it, but she'll love it. Don't let her down.
Could she be lying to you, telling you things that she knows you want to hear but not meaning any of it? Maybe, maybe not. Some decisions have to be made on faith alone and that's the chance you'll have to be willing to take. We have those kinds of women in this country. We've all met them during our lives. We know how they act and how they talk, so use your intuition and common sense. Don't get carried away by your enthusiasm about meeting that stunningly beautiful woman from Wherever and throw out all caution. She has probably been honest with you and you have nothing to worry about, but think before you act, that's all. Yes, there are scam artists out there. eventually. To protect youryself? Iask for the woman's mailing address in your first letter to her, and send her your mailing address to show her that you do exist and have a home. If she doesn't reciprocate forget her.
Why look for a woman in the former Soviet Union? Someone who is attentive, loving, intelligent, and someone with whom to share your life with and have fun....having a beautiful wife is not a bad thing, either.. Plus there are elements of adventure, excitement and discovery in marrying an Eastern European woman. She will appreciate traveling with you to new places, trying new foods, meeting new people, and doing things that most Americans would consider mundane or routine. And once a year or so, we'll fly back to Novosibirsk or Chelyabinsk or whatever her hometown might be to visit her family and friends. What an adventure that will be.
Get to know and understand the culture that raised her. Russian women have the cutest accents and the sweetest voices, so you just have to love them.. So when you arrive at the airport in Moscow on your way to see the woman of your dreams, just smile at the immigration officers with the big hats and ill-fitting uniforms, answer their questions quickly and directly, and tell them how happy you are to be in their wonderful country. They'll think you're a nut, but they won't give you a hard time either. And I promise the woman you are going to see will not treat you that way.
Why is the age range I put in my ad from 15 to 20 years younger than I am? Again, probably for the same reasons as yours. One reason is because that's the highest age of most of the women who are looking for foreign husbands. Maybe the women over 45 have given up, or think they are past their prime. That's not true, but how do you tell them? I don't know the answer to that. Would I consider marrying a Russian woman my own age? Sure, why not? Do I really want a trophy wife or arm candy. Every woman wants to be loved because of who she is, not just because she'll look good attached to your arm when you go out on the town. Russian and Ukrainian women are no different. Love them for who and what they are, and tell them so. Often. They'll love you even more for it.
Why would she consider a man 15-25 years her senior? The answers are simple: stability, security and caring. You have a stable and secure career. You have time to pay attention to her and you won't spend fifteen hours a day in the office while you ignore her and your home life. You're settled and responsible. You won't jealously guard your authority as the head of the household, but have learned that a husband and wife are partners, equals. You're not just looking for a good time or playing games, but you are serious about finding a wife you can love and respect. You're a good man and you've proven yourself. Remember when you were 35? You weren't very mature were you? Well, you are now and she likes that. If she knows your age and is still interested in you, then it doesn't matter. Forget the age difference it really doesn't matter.
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About the Author
Graeme Jarry
Internet Marketing since 2003
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